I have always wondered how one has the friends he has. How did it come about that out of probably a hundred thousand people one has met over the 30 years of living, one has chosen the select few, probably less than 10 as your friends.
This weekend I learnt why, I think it has to do with temperament. Your friends can deal with your temper, not only condone it (when required) but they can also piss you off, whilst you are already pissed off.
Their job is not make you feel good, but to make you a better person, regardless of how you feel and think about anything.
Then, there is loyalty. Loyalty not in the sake of keeping the peace, but loyalty that strengthens you in the long term.
In fact, I beginning to think your friends are actually extension of your alter-ego, not your ego, but that thing you want to be, but cannot.
and because it takes relatively 10 years or so to iron out who your actual friends are, making news friends is out of the question, sure you make new acquaintances, but anybody that is 'new' has to have already gone through the trials and tribulations of 'being alive' --- so when you do become friends there are things that don't have to be learnt.
Although, I thrive on new people, new perspective, but I've come to terms with the fact I just don't have the time for people to learn some basic principles of diplomacy.
Yes, friendship is about diplomacy. I think that is what I'm trying to say.
Okay, now I have to work --- I am broke as hell, need to finish this project and get paid, so I can focus on other important things.
oh, please explain the diplomacy bit. I don't get it.
friends being extension of one's alter-ego - maybe, whatever the truth about that is, the idea that thats what friends are, is interesting - I could buy it.
yeh, interesting idea that.
Jan 2008
diplomacy as in the idea that 'a relationship' is based on mutual agreements --- one party wants that and the other wants the another thing and both parties agree on what to give and what to expect in return.
a negotiated settlement of how to deal (or rather how to handle the relation).
nkoane
Jan 2008
...i like your view of friends...food for thought...
i definetly agree with parts of ur posts...
I love my friends (too much)...can u love someone too much...??!!
{Actually just realised u can...i don't love my friends too much...I love them and that's the truth...}
Jan 2008